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As a specially trained Court Approved R. 1:40 Family Law Mediator, Bonnie Jerbasi can meet with couples and act as mediator for the issues that need to be resolved in order to get divorced.  In addition, mediation can be used for post-judgment issues and for relocation cases.

Virtual Divorce Mediation: High Quality Online Mediation Service Options

Divorce is often a challenging and emotional process, but with the rise of virtual divorce mediation services, couples now have alternative options for settling their disputes amicably. In this article, we will delve into the world of divorce mediation and explore the benefits of choosing this approach over traditional litigation. We will also discuss how online divorce mediation differs from in-person mediation and provide guidance on selecting the right mediator for your specific needs.

What is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation is a process where a neutral third party, known as a mediator, helps divorcing couples reach agreements on various issues such as child custody, spousal support and division of assets. Choosing divorce mediation over litigation can offer numerous benefits, including a faster resolution, lower costs and greater control over the outcome.

During the mediation process, the mediator facilitates discussions between the spouses, guiding them towards mutually agreed-upon solutions. By opting for mediation, couples can avoid the adversarial nature of a courtroom battle and work towards a more peaceful and cooperative separation.  A mediator can be an attorney but it is not a requirement in New Jersey.  The benefit of using an attorney-mediator is that you can end up with the final settlement agreement to be used for the court filings.  An attorney-mediator cannot give legal advice to either party as they must remain neutral, but they can outline the current laws and cases relating to divorce issues.

How Does Online Divorce Mediation Differ from In-person Mediation?

Online divorce mediation, conducted through virtual platforms, offers the convenience of resolving disputes from the comfort of your own home. While in-person mediation provides face-to-face interactions, virtual mediation eliminates the need for physical presence, making it a suitable option for busy individuals or those residing in different locations.

When comparing the effectiveness of virtual mediation versus in-person sessions, both formats have their advantages and limitations. In an online setting, couples may find it easier to communicate openly without the pressure of being in the same room. Tips for maximizing the benefits of an online mediation session include ensuring a stable internet connection and creating a conducive environment for discussions.

Many mediators are opting for online sessions as they find that there is more control over volatile situations and that options such as separate chat rooms are convenient for discussing emotionally charged issues.  The time spent for traveling, sessions and follow up is greatly reduced resulting in lower costs for the divorcing couple.

Choosing the Right Mediator for Your Divorce Mediation

When selecting a divorce mediator, it is essential to look for certain qualities that can enhance the mediation process. A mediator should possess excellent communication skills, remain impartial and have a strong understanding of family law and conflict resolution techniques. Factors to consider when choosing a mediation service include their reputation, experience and success rate in handling similar cases.

During the initial consultation with a mediator, it is crucial to ask relevant questions about their approach, fees, and expected timeline for the mediation process. By building a good rapport with your chosen mediator, you can ensure a smoother and more effective mediation experience.

Most mediators will offer a free or reduced rate consultation session which is usually done by telephone or online.  The consultation session is to review the mediation process and not to get into the details of the case.

What to Expect During a Virtual Divorce Mediation Session

Before your first mediation session, it is advisable to prepare emotionally and gather all necessary documents related to your divorce. Common issues addressed during mediation include asset division, child custody arrangements and financial support obligations. The mediator plays a pivotal role in guiding discussions, ensuring that both parties have the opportunity to express their concerns and preferences.  This is when online sessions come in handy as there can be separate meetings with each party or a meeting with all present, including counsel, if applicable.

Through productive dialogue and negotiation, couples can work towards a settlement agreement that meets the needs of both parties and their children. The mediator’s role is not to provide legal advice but to facilitate discussions and assist in reaching mutually acceptable resolutions.

Benefits of Online Divorce Mediation Services

Online divorce mediation services offer unparalleled convenience and flexibility for divorcing couples. The cost comparison between in-person and virtual mediation demonstrates the potential savings and efficiency of virtual sessions. Additionally, online mediation can cater to multi-party mediation needs, allowing extended family members or other stakeholders to participate in the process without the constraints of physical proximity.  While this does not usually apply to divorce cases, it can be helpful if accountants or side counsel want to participate in financial decisions with their client.

By opting for online mediation, couples can avoid the stresses of court proceedings and benefit from a more personalized and collaborative approach to resolving their differences. Whether dealing with issues of divorce or legal separation, online mediation provides a valuable alternative to traditional litigation, promoting out-of-court settlements and fostering amicable resolutions.

Q: What is virtual divorce mediation?

A: Virtual divorce mediation is an online mediation process that allows spouses to mediate their divorce and family issues with the help of a divorce mediator through video conferencing and sometimes on the telephone.

Q: How does the online mediation process work?

A: In virtual divorce mediation, spouses participate in an online session instead of meeting in person. They discuss their divorce and legal separation issues with the guidance of a mediator using platforms like Zoom or other video conferencing tools.

Q: What are the benefits of virtual divorce mediation?

A: Virtual divorce mediation offers the benefits of convenience, flexibility and cost-effectiveness. It allows spouses to get through the divorce process in a collaborative manner without the need to be physically present in the same location.  It also is helpful for couples who work traditional hours for their job as many mediators will conduct online sessions in the evenings.

Q: How can I participate in an online divorce mediation session?

A: To participate in an online divorce mediation session, you can contact us to schedule a meeting with a divorce mediator who will guide you through the mediation process using video conferencing tools.

Q: What is the role of a divorce mediator in the online mediation process?

A: A divorce mediator facilitates communication between spouses, helps them reach agreements on divorce and family matters such as child support, alimony and division of assets, and assists them in resolving issues amicably.

Q: Is virtual mediation suitable for multi-party divorce and family mediation?

A: Yes, virtual mediation can accommodate multiple parties involved in a divorce and family mediation, allowing them to mediate online with the assistance of a mediator to reach mutually acceptable solutions.

Q: What is the difference between virtual mediation and traditional in-person mediation?

A: Virtual mediation eliminates the need for physical presence in a mediation office, offering the convenience of mediating online from anywhere. It provides a flexible and efficient alternative to in-person mediation sessions.  Many mediators have found in the last few years that virtual mediation is preferred by many clients and that it is just as effective as in-person mediation with the additional benefit of being very convenient.


The Law Offices of Bonnie Jerbasi  specialize in all areas of family law. If you are looking for a New Jersey family lawyer, please call (973) 459-5923 to schedule an appointment, or contact us online.    


I really appreciate what you did for us and it really saved us as we had been spending more than we had to end this relationship.  Thanks to you we were able to end it in a friendlier way through mediation.


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